Why Do Men Crossdress

Ask Patricia: My growing urge to be like a woman

Q I'm a 40-year-old male, divorced with two children. Since I was very young, I always enjoyed dressing up in female underwear and clothing. It just makes me feel comfortable. Over the years, the desire to have female breasts affected me psychologically and physically, and my breasts began to grow. I have never used any supplements before, or taken any medication.

I am wearing a bra almost every day. I hide it by wearing shirts with a lot of stripes, so that people cannot easily see the bra-straps underneath. I also, more often than not, wear ladies' g-strings. This has become the norm for me.

My children live with their mother and I am alone most of the time. I have started seeing someone recently and introduced the idea of me wearing female clothing when I am alone with her. At first, she was very opposed to it, but later she allowed me to do it when she was not around. No one knows of my little secret. However, I am afraid that I want to do it more and more every day. I even sometimes feel like just going out during the day and showing the world what I am becoming. Is this wrong?

Do you think my kids will accept this change? I am not really scared about it -- the change, I mean. I am a very confident person who is not really tight into the family. I recently started reading up on these issues on the internet and, to my surprise, I found many other men who are like me. Some wives like it and support it, and others don't. I sometimes feel that I would just like to befriend an older lady and ask her to take me under her wing and teach me how to be a woman.

Reply:

TO be frank, I'm not sure what you're telling me, exactly. So I'm not sure what change you think your children will have to face. Maybe you haven't put it clearly. Or maybe I'm being dense. Or maybe, you don't exactly know what you're heading for yourself.

I get it that you cross-dress, until now anyway, in secret. I also get it that you would like to go out, openly, dressed as a woman. In fact, this is becoming a desire you find harder and harder to resist. And I understand that you might want a woman to teach you how to behave like a woman, not just dress like one.

I don't, however, think that that is the whole story. And I definitely don't understand this business about your breasts. Men do get breasts when they become overweight. And I presume they could fit them into a bra. But I don't know how wanting to dress as a woman can lead to breasts actually growing. You are ambiguous about the way you talk of taking medication. You say you didn't take it before. Are you taking it now? Did medication, perhaps, help those breasts along the way?

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The transgendered community is increasing, or rather we shall say that now, since the people are evolving as individuals and feel free to express and behave according to they free will. Whether it is according to the rules and norms of the society, or not. So is the case with the transgenders. They are becoming much surer of their wishes and going on with it. The question that arises in every body's mind is that why do men crossdress? Why do they feel the need to dress up and appear like a woman? And these questions tend to create many incorrect notions about the transgendered people in the minds of the other people. The answer to all these questions is that there is no direct and quickly satisfying answer. Many of us take it to be a sin, but its is not at all like that, its just an obsession that starts with a fantasy to imitate and look like someone gorgeous or appealing you have seen. Generally, it is also not related to sexual experience or excitement of any kind. Many men feel a need to cross dress, they start with small things like trying ladies lingerie, and other clothing at home, and later takes the form of an obsession that creates within them an urge to dress up and behave like a woman. Most of these men find themselves far more comfortable in these ladies dresses. This is mainly related to the desire that is very prevalent in these men, and that is of appearing like a woman. Some of the men also say that they do so just because they do not believe in the typical stereotypes and stereotyped dresses assigned to different genders in the society. They say that they want to go against these social boundaries because they really mean nothing and have no base. Some of them wanted to become women, and to fulfill this incomplete wish of theirs, they cross dress as a woman. Many just dress up like a woman occasionally, 'just for change', as they call it. Many of them wear it just to look different and eye catching types. It's strange, but few men even relate it to their spiritual sense and statement.

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